REFLECTIONS FROM LAUREN HOWE
The Soft Ground
A place for tending to your unfolding
Sometimes we realise that the ways we have learnt to move through the world no longer quite fit. We might find ourselves tired of pushing through, disconnected from our bodies, caught in familiar patterns, or sensing that something within us is asking for a different way.
The Soft Ground is a meeting place for those moments. To land within them and meet them with a curious heart rather than another thing to fix or overcome.
Here I write about somatic therapy, body-led meditation, nervous system awareness, life transitions and our relationship with the natural world, exploring what can become possible when we begin listening to the body rather than always trying to think our way forward.
You are invited to come as you are. Stay with what is here.
See what begins to emerge.
When Parenting Turns Into Survival (“mess around and find out” parenting)
There’s a new kind of parenting trending — the “mess around and find out” approach. It’s sold as strength, as firm boundaries and tough love. But beneath the tone, you can feel something else. The tightness. The exhaustion. The quiet grief of parents who are stretched beyond capacity and just trying to survive the day. This isn’t bad parenting; it’s the sound of nervous systems crying out for rest and connection. Maybe what we need isn’t more control, but more compassion — for ourselves and for the children who are learning from the way we soften.